Sunday, July 15, 2012

Men: How to Approach a Woman? It really works!

Guys, I have been out of the dating fame for a while now, but before I met my wife, I have never had any problems with the ladies. As a matter a fact, I consider myself to be quite the expert on this subject. I use to love to sit back and watch my friends make ass's out of themselves while trying to pick up women. I guess this is how I learned what not to do, LOL. Woman are kind of simple to me, if they like you, or if they are available, they are going to give u some type of invitation. Every now and then you will meet one that you can't read, but if she does not act like u make here stomach turn, you stand a chance. Now, I am going to give you two theories on how to approach a woman, and then I am going to give you a universal way that will work on any decent single lady.

The First Theory is what I call Watch and Strike! Let me explain what that means! If you are just out with the fella's at the bar, and you just want to meet or take a woman home, this is def what you will want to use. This means that you don't care about what type of woman she is, you just want a woman, so check the scene. You are at the club, bar, or at a function. This is a place that you don't have long to make your move, because you do not know how long the chick will be there. Now, you have spotted the woman that just for some reason does it for you. Watch her for a few minutes! Make sure that she is not there with a dude, look at how she is dressed. Is she dressed like a slut, freak, business lady, old maid, casual, princess, well you get it. Watch how she carry's herself, does she look like she is on the stuck up side, wild, loose, friendly, well you get what Im saying.

Now, you have been watching her with her friends or alone, and she seems to be kind of cool, quiet, and sophisticated. She is dressed nicely, but not like some whore. So, you already know that you cannot go over there with some wild, crazy, and/or tacky ass line. As a matter of fact, never approach a woman with a line, just be you. Now, go ahead and put in your head what you are going to say to this chick. You know, Hey how are you doing, you know what Im saying. So now, you have a feel for what type of girl she is, you know you are going to have to approach her as a gentleman. Now, when is the question. If she is with a group of girls, you don't want to just walk up to her, because those girls will end up in your business, or seriously hating on you because you did not want them. You will want to look at her to see if you can get any eye contact. If you can't establish any eye contact, go for the "send her a drink" move. I particularly dont like this move, but this might be your only chance. Now if you have the balls to just go over and talk to her, by all means do it, but if not, go with the drink. Send her the drink with a message, with your number on it by the waitress. If she drinks that drink, more than likely she will call. Now if you decide to go over, introduce your self to her, and kick off the small talk. Now this is not for a wimpy ass man, this is for a skilled player.

Now, if the chick appeared to be wild, and kind of freaky. Forget all of the special approaches, the last thing that you will want to do is approach some party girl like she is the preachers daughter, all you are going to do is end up turning her off. The good time girl does not need all of the small talk. Just walk up to this chick, dont be rude, never be rude to any woman, but be direct. For example, you notice this girl doing body shots with some more chicks right, you don't want to go over there sounding like a biiiiotch. You say "I need to be the one taking some shots off of you", you get what Im saying. Trust me, this will work, but the key is, never be rude to a woman, even a prostitute wants to be respected.

Theory Two, The Nice guy! The nice guy has always been the way to go, at least for me. Now, this is for the guy who wants a decent girl, a girl to settle down with maybe. It really helps if you are the nice guy, it takes less work, and comes off more naturally. You do not have to figure out what type of woman she is, you are going to be the nice sensitive guy regardless. The good part of it is, no matter what type of girl she is, the average girl will still exchange numbers with the nice guy, even if you just end up as friends. Now, the nice guy at the club or bar only wants to approach the woman that has gave him the second look. Never just walk up to the woman, chances are she has been approached all dam day long. You have to separate yourself from the rest. Let's say you are sitting at the bar, and you scope out the chick a few chairs down from you. You are chillin, sippin on a brew or whatever. Glance down at her a few times to see if you can get  few looks. Just watch her, both theories are going to include watching, because you want a decent chick now, thats the whole point of the good guy. You don't to approach a woman that you know is already loose, you are approaching a woman that maybe loose, but not showing it, and is showing you some attention.

This approach may take some time, because you are trying to get in a position to make conversation. As a matter a fact, you will want to go somewhere where your chances of sitting near a single woman is greater. A bar at a restaurant is a great place on a Thursday night. More than likely, during your time there, a single lady will be at that bar looking for some attention, trust me. So create what I call small but fun talk. You know there is always a tv at the bar, so when a crazy commercial comes on, look at her and make a remark about it. This will break the ice, and then you throw something out there, and the next thing you know, you are in a conversation. Before she leaves, you tell her that you have enjoyed your conversation, and would like to continue on another day. There you have it. It worked for be hundreds of times, so i am passing the game along. Give it a shot and let me know how it worked out.

Tuesday, July 3, 2012

LADIES: Learn How to say "Yes Dear"

Ladies, When a man comes home from work, or is just waking up, or is trying to go to sleep, or whatever the hell he is doing, tone down on the attitudes ok. I mean I know that you guys are wired up different, but when a man thinks of a woman, he just wants to hear, "yes dear". If you can just remember that, you can pretty much get what you want from us. A little gets you a lot sometimes. You women have those days when something is wrong, but when we ask whats wrong, you say its nothing but you still carry the attitude. Speaking from a married mans opinion, da shit gets on my nerves. Unless your man has pissed you off, you should never walk around pissed at him, he is there to make things right. I can't tell you how many times I have came home and a attitude was just sitting there waiting for me. So ladies, know matter what happened during your day, if u got a problem, tell your man, if you don't want to discuss it, hide the attitude, and remember to say "Yes Dear".

Friday, June 29, 2012

Fella's: Wine and Dine her Sometimes!

Ok, Ive talked about the woman enough, now it is time to jump on the brothers for a min. Fella's Sometime's we are just asking for someone to just come and taker our women away. I mean, I know some women that I would personally tell to go out and get someone else. For someone that GOD put in charge to run things, we are some real fools sometimes. I did not realize how many men there are that give their women no attention. Let me tell you how I found this out. I'm from macon,ga (WE CALL IT MAYBERRY), and it is nothing to do in this city most of the time. The city has gone for bad with all of the violence and everything. We are only an hour away from Atlanta, and this is where me an my wife go as much as possible to have a grown up time. We often attend concerts, fine dining, plays, and other events on the weekend just to get away. I'm thinking once I got married that I would be double dating with some married friends or family, but its not going that way. When me and my wife choose to take a little trip, we sometimes ask other couples to go, and its like pulling teeth. I cannot get any of these dudes to take there woman anywhere. I mean most women will be ready to go out of town for a weekend of nice hotel rooms, drinks, and festivities, but fella's you are killing me. I know that the economy is screwed, but everything does not have to be expensive. There are some days when we just get a room, and stroll downtown. You can do this no matter where you are located. Brothers when did we get so careless with our women. Don't you know that women like attention, and a little wine and dining. It does not even have to be expensive, believe me, I don't have it like that at all. I have put together cheap bus trips for couple's, and the women were always down to go, but the men were so cheap, or whatever it is with them. Don't you want your woman fella's? I mean what is it, do you want her to go else where for the attention? Im not saying that you have to walk on egg shells to keep your woman, but dam, you don't want to hand her over neither. I know so many of us that will go shoot poole with the guys, but won't spend 20 bucks on a meal on her. You have to make you lady feel special, because if this goes on for a while, and that guy at work is talking about having a little fun, he just might stand a chance. So Wine and Dine your wife, girlfriend, friend, cut buddy, boo thang, home girl, friend girl, or whatever that it is you call her. It's our job to take care of our women!

Tuesday, June 26, 2012

Men, Do you really think your Woman won't Cheat?

You better think Twice!

There have been so many times that I have heard my fellow man say "she aint going nowhere", or "I got that on lock", man please. If your really believe this, your are a real fool. In may single days, most of my friends were females, and yes, most of them had men. I tell ya, if some of the men only knew what their women told me, they would be ready to kill. I mean, I have heard it all from the man not measuring up in the bedroom, to he does not make enough money, he is not attractive enough, and oh yea, Im just dating him until I find the right one. Its so funny to me that some guys actually think that they have it going on, but if they only knew. Over the years I have learned that simple things that we don't do, will drive a woman into someone's arm. You can never stop someone from doing what they want, but you do not have to help them either. Im going to name some of the most simple things that us men forget to do for our women.

  • Don't give her enough attention: I cant tell you how many women complained to me about there man not giving them enough attention. This is one of the main mistakes that we make fellas. Ask her how she is doing sometimes! Message her when she gets home from work. Do that thing she likes without looking for something in return. Make her feel like the cute school girl she use to be.
  • Not enough Quality Time: This is so easy to be fixed. When you think of quality time, it does not have to consist of anything major. Go rent a movie, cook her favorite meal, and grab some wine, and be prepared to be taken for the ride of your life later. If you don't believe me, somebody else will be happy to take your place.
  • Keep yourself Groomed: We like a little eye candy fellas, don't forget that your woman does to. Keep yourself well shaved, smelling good, and dress up every once in a while. Hit the gym and giver her something to look at. Put down the beer and do some sit ups.
  • Take her on trips: Now you can't do this all of the time, but every once in a while, hop in the car, drive to the next city, and get a nice hotel room for the night, and spoil her a little.
  • Be a gentleman: Make your woman feel like a queen. Open the car door for her! Hold her hand when you are out in public, make the other women jealous. You know women like that kind of stuff.
  • Listen: This is probably the most important of them all, shut up and listen. When she gets home from work, just listen to what she has to say about her day. Remember, make her feel like its all about her, and nobody else.
Now these are very simple ways of keeping your woman at home, and happy. How do I know this, well because I use to be the dude doing this for other dudes women, LOL. Man when you treat a woman like this, you will have to run them off from you. I use to have women giving me money out of their boyfriends bank account. I was 22 years old with 50 year old women calling me for advice. They just needed someone to listen. It wasn't even about sex, they just wanted to be treated like a real woman. Take heed to what Im saying fella's! Im a married man now, and I shower my woman, and I get anything that I ask for in return. We can be quite stupid sometimes, but don't loose your woman over simple things.

Sunday, June 24, 2012

Good Guy Advice: Why is it so hard to find a Good Man?

 So a good man is hard to find right, well, not really! As a matter of fact, I am willing to bet you that every woman by the age of 30, has had a good man approach her but did not want him. Ladies, do you know why you didn't want him? I know why, it was because he did not fit the description of your dream man as far as looks, he didn't have it going on in the money department, or he was just to good to be true. You might not want to admit this, but I'll bet my life that I am right. It could be one the things I just listed, or all of the above. No one wants you to just accept any dude, but you better rethink whats important to you. Everybody does not look like Tom Cruise or Brad Pitt, but you can take it a couple of notches down. Everybody can't be rich, but you can always make more money. Now, I have heard women say that a dude was just to good to   be true, or he was just too goodie goodie.

Now let me get to the real problem, you need to stop being so dam picky for one. And for 2, you need to first learn what the hell you want. Most women do not know what they want. When you get the good dude, you run over him, or you run him away. So now you are calling the good guy that you met weak. Get the F&^k out of here! No matter how good a man is, you will find something wrong with him. It's nothing wrong with him, its something wrong with your crazy ass. So how about this, if you want a good man, get a good man, and treat him like a good man. Now if you want to know how to treat that good man, Ill tell you that later. P.S. Excuse any Typo's!